To simplify I work with people who are in one place (pain), and want to be in a new place (out of pain).
We can easily compare this journey to flying a plane to a new destination.
No plane journey is straight forward for a pilot; he or she takes into account all the variables which affect the planes course including wind speed, direction, weather conditions, temperature and the weight of the plane.
They constantly check-in with the instrument gauges and may make adjustments which keep the plane on the course that they need to be on.
This metaphor is relevant to being on a journey of pain recovery.
First you decide and commit to the journey and whilst on that journey, you may very well need to check in and make any changes that are going to promote your recovery.
Be a pilot with your health and don’t be disheartened if you have to make some adjustments along the way.
As humans we know how important venting is.
That’s why buildings have air bricks fitted and engines have breathers fitted to allow the engine to vent.
If these things were not put in place then wooden floors would rot and engines would blow gaskets.
The animal kingdom appears to use this principle more instinctively, when a zebra has narrowly missed death from a lion, it will shake, twitch and jump around, venting and discharging the emotional charge.
However, when it comes to us living in the modern world, we don’t often take the time to vent and discharge from what is bothering us.
Instead we tend to bottle it all up until dis-ease or pain strikes.
Allow a little time to each day to acknowledge how you are feeling and vent the tension in any way you know how.
A few ideas are kick, scream, punch, write, draw, ring a towel, talk or run.
Out of all the days, the mother of a friend of mine died on Mother’s day.
This got me thinking, life really doesn’t except should and shouldn’t of…….things just happen …………
It might sound a bit doom and gloom, but as a Pain Relief Coach, you do notice that a lot of physical tension is caused by people trying to control outcomes or more specifically, people struggling to let go of control.
As you can imagine, trying to control things that cannot be controlled will cause tension.
In acknowledging that life is not fair and that things just happen, this will make a big step towards you letting go of control and in turn positively affecting your health.
Dr Lipton’s quote emphasises this perfectly:
The moment you change your perceptions is the moment you rewrite the chemistry of your body
“Eat less and exercise more” is often the advice given for weight loss.
If only it was that simple and our minds were that robotic!
The reality is that we are illogical beings who are easily conditioned, have different personalities and who often find change scary and challenging.
In my opinion, the reason why weight loss is difficult for some people is the many attachments they placed on food.
For example, it often appears to be more about how food makes us feel rather than the nutritional content that drives us to eat.
In addition to feelings, unconscious beliefs also play a large part in why we choose certain foods and the amounts we consume….
As an example of this, I once met a lady who really struggled to lose weight. She tried every diet, recruited the best personal trainers but still she could not achieve any long lasting results. But when this lady finally reflected and tapped into her unconscious mind, she realised that it was her anxiety that was holding her back, as she believed that if she lost weight then she would become more attractive to men thus potentially putting her cherished relationship with her loving husband in jeopardy.
The same approach can be applied to pain, where if we tap into our unconscious we tend to discover unconscious beliefs/thoughts that are preventing the pain to go, for example:
I have not worked in years; I’m worried that I may not be able to do my job now?
I really did not enjoy my job; I don’t want to go back!
Would my partner give me less attention?
If I am no longer a Chronic Pain sufferer, who am I?
So I urge you to also reflect on all of the possible undercover reasons that maybe holding you back from being pain free……
As a little awareness can often pave the way for life changing results!
Personally I believe that the saying ‘time is the greatest healer’ is a total myth.
The truth is that time does not heal, but taking action and working through stuff does!
To prove my point, I recently read a case study about a 76 year old woman who was having hypnosis for anxiety.
The skilled hypnosis gently regressed the lady back to the start of her problems, where she was just 4 years old, being abused by a family member.
Suddenly the lady became overwhelmed with intense emotion and felt how she would have as a 4yr old.
This lady had never experienced these emotions as a girl; she had instead frozen them and locked them deep into her unconscious mind and went through life, avoiding certain situations and having unexplained physical symptoms.
So time did not make a single bit of difference to this lady’s healing of her trauma!
As children we often don’t have the resources to deal with and work through extreme negative emotions. However, as adults we have a responsibility towards our own health and well-being.
As the famous psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden said:
The first step toward change is awareness, the second step is acceptance.
Moving forward I invite you to speak to your loved ones, friends, colleagues or even a stranger about something that is bothering you . . . .
Because guess what?
Life’s too short to carry around unnecessary baggage.
Try it, I guarantee you will feel lighter.
Welcome to Go Pain Go and the launch of my new Pain Relief Coaching therapy, based in Ipswich UK but aiming to help people all over the world, who suffer from Chronic Pain conditions.
Over the next few weeks and months I will be writing a lot about Pain including some great starter tips on how to resolve it.
So if you have been to the Doctor, Physio or even had surgery for your Pain, but you are still suffering with symptoms, then this blog and Pain Relief Coaching is for you.
Watch this space 🙂